In Why We Do What We Do, motivational psychologist Edward Deci explains that “Cunning or external pressure... can sometimes lead to conformity, but with conformity comes various negative consequences, including the desire to challenge" (9). This “external motivation” can cause worry and stress, while being autonomous – motivated by one's inner self – “is associated with positive aspects of personality” (183). When you are autonomous, you choose your adventures authentically and, as a result, experience more positive consequences. However, being autonomous and authentic is no easy task. Like many Calvin students, you likely have an academic scholarship that requires a high grade to maintain. Does this external motivation make you want to work hard because you enjoy it? Instead of creating autonomous students, these controls reduce authenticity in their desire to attend class, since, as Deci explains, “Authenticity requires behaving autonomously, since it means being the author of one's own actions...” (4 ). Fortunately, you, as a Calvin student, can become autonomous and authentic, despite external motivations, allowing you to worry less about the grades you receive and more about what you are learning. By finding a support group, choosing to change, becoming less ego-involved, and learning to regulate your emotions, you will achieve more positive outcomes and adventures. When people find others who support them in their intrinsic motivation, they become more autonomous. Deci observes that “some children who live in generally non-nurturing environments are able to find an adult with whom they can have a special relationship” (178). He argues that these special relationships are what set these children apart, giving them the chance to take... middle of paper... an important step towards becoming autonomous and non-ego-involved. Asking questions like “why do I feel like the world will end if I don't keep my scholarship?” you can begin to understand and accept yourself. Taking an interest in oneself, instead of blaming, is necessary to maintain control of autonomy. While there are no specific techniques that work for everyone, simply asking yourself why you do what you do will help you in your quest to become self-reliant and authentic. By enjoying the lessons and understanding yourself even amidst the controls, you can become more autonomous and authentic in your actions. By finding a support group, choosing to change, and becoming less ego-involved, you and your Calvin classmates can independently and authentically choose your own adventures, instead of allowing the grades you receive to control and define you..