He asks his brother and best friend if he should marry a brunette girl. He starts to think too much. He is nervous about meeting Carolyn's family. He is afraid that they may not have things in common since they are not the same race. After spending time with his family, Soto is relieved and realizes that Carolyn's family is like the Mexicans, only different (Soto 575-578). As she was growing up, Soto's most important ideas about girls and marriage were that she had to know how to cook, act like a woman, and she had to be Mexican. For starters, Soto notes, “but I would never marry an Okie” (576). His grandmother really influenced him to believe that he shouldn't marry a woman if she wasn't Mexican. His mind was set on the idea that he would live his life with a Mexican wife. He wasn't open minded