Those emotions included a sense of inferiority and, to some extent, feeling disrespected and devalued as a business partner. This analysis clearly demonstrates that anger is the secondary emotion. And, truth be told, his anger was justified given the facts available at the time. That said, the emotionally intelligent individual is able to probe his or her own psyche and identify the events and emotions that triggered the anger. They then continue to deal with those events and primary emotions rather than anger which is the natural response. In conclusion, here are some questions to consider before responding in anger: What am I afraid of? What feelings appeared right before the anger? What other feelings am I experiencing? What or who is trying to control me? What or who am I trying to control? What can you control? What is out of my control? I hope this helps you in your quest for higher levels of emotional intelligence. We are here and available to help you if you are looking for resources or coaching in the emotional area