Cognitive therapy demonstrates how to recognize "should" and "ought" thoughts, how to differentiate irrational beliefs from rational ones, and how to accept reality. Emotional-evocative therapy uses role-playing, psychodrama, humor, and other ideas to convince individuals that others can accept them even with their failures and to get them to recognize what they say to themselves when they experience these shameful feelings. Behavioral therapy is used to help the individual change their maladaptive behavior patterns and to help them change their cognitive abilities. REBT therapists assign active homework and suggest that there will be sanctions for not doing the homework. Some therapists use the desensitization approach, which is a process by which anxiety and fears are minimized through gradual exposure to harmful stimuli, combined with relaxation, skill training, and other behavioral techniques. While others prefer the implosive (sudden, rather than gradual) approach to confronting the phobic