More commonly, people wonder if domestic violence actually happens towards men because they think "if it happened frequently, we'd hear about it more" (Cook 1). People also think that if a man reports acts of sexual violence, then it is "a woman who was attacked and [was] fighting back" (Cook 2) and that the injuries cannot be serious because women are usually not as strong as men (cook 2). However, none of this is true, “the extent of [domestic abuse against men] remains unknown… [because] violence against men tends to go unrecognized as men are less likely to admit to or report incidents due of embarrassment” (Barber 35 ). Many people do not believe that a woman can harm a man, but in reality “male victims may experience broken limbs, knife wounds, tooth marks, scratches, and lacerations” (Barber 38). Domestic abuse is not limited to physical harm, in fact, domestic violence is defined as “verbal, sexual, and emotional intimidation or financial abuse” (Barber 35). Basically, the perpetrator seeks a sense of power over the victim by using the ways listed above as an intimidation tactic. Using these tactics, victims, both men and women, may feel pressured to keep quiet about the initial abuse out of fear that the abuse may become more severe.