Well, here's the answer. You asked if I were in your position (dying) would I care about yelling at mom. My answer is yes. Why would I want my loved ones to remember my last years as a living hell? Why would I want them sitting there wishing the day of my death would come faster just to stop the hostility? I wish my loved ones could say that my last years were the best even if the years before were bad. That I lived the rest of my life with a smile and made sure everyone in my life knew how much they meant to me. I would try to correct every mistake, not build on the ones I already had