My Story To continue our family's ethnic/cultural identity, our parents must teach us the core values ​​of our East Asian culture. The most fundamental of these values ​​concerns gender roles and dating, which lead to gender bias. Children of both sexes are more influenced by mothers' attitudes than by fathers' attitudes because mothers play the role of primary socialization agents in the East Asian community. I come from a pretty strict Vietnamese family. I was born in a refugee camp in Thailand, but ten days after I was born we came here to the United States. So I basically grew up here in the United States. Growing up there was my older brother (who is 13 years older than me), me, my younger sister and my younger brother. In my culture, a much older sibling tends to have a lot of authority over younger siblings. So here I am, the eldest daughter, growing up in a strict Vietnamese family with basically three parents. Needless to say, I had a very sheltered childhood. If I wasn't in the kitchen with my mother helping her cook, I was doing other household chores. If I wasn't doing housework, I was with my dad reading a book or reviewing spelling words for the weekly spelling tests. Academia is a matter never to be taken lightly. If I ever get caught sitting around the house watching TV or doing something that isn't productive, I can always expect my mom to be around Tisk and say, "What kind of lazy guy?" are you a daughter? What would people say if they saw their eldest daughter in this state? For them, public image is very important. My brother, on the other hand, was always out doing something. Whether it was road trips, camping trips, playing pool, he was always outside. If he was ever home, I can only remember him lying on the couch in front of the TV or on the phone with his friends or girlfriend. When I was younger, it didn't take me long to see this as unfair treatment. It was very difficult for me to have freedom in my social life. I had a 9am curfew and could only go out with friends whose parents I had to know personally.