I grew up in a traditional home where my mother was a housewife and made sure that I and all my siblings were taken care of while my father worked. My parents' unconditional love for each other provided us with a happy home. Although they had arguments and disagreements, I never saw my father mentally or physically abuse my mother. As the ninth of ten children, my parents promoted equality among us all. Dr. Jawanza Kunjufu's book, "Where Art Thou Adam?" He stated that: “We love our sons and train our daughters.” Culturally speaking, this statement has been emphasized in Hispanic culture, from my early age as a young girl. Females were responsible for daily household chores such as cooking, doing laundry, and taking care of children. Males were responsible for outdoor work such as yard work, home improvements, and farming. Men are taught to be the breadwinner, provider, and sacrificer for the family's success. As the head of the family, the male figure must make good or bad decisions as long as it benefits the family. Financially provide for the security and well-being of the family and the future success and support of children. He sacrifices himself to provide for his family financially, whether it be through hard labor or multiple jobs. This is why many Hispanic male figures appear to be workers. Women should be submissive, selfless and responsible for managing the home. Submissive in the satisfaction of both her husband and children. Women must be submissive in order to satisfy their husband, whether it is for pleasure or satisfying his every need. Self-sacrifice involves long hours of work for both husband and children. Likewise, self-sacrifice might also please his family and his dedication... middle of paper... but exceptions hit hard times. There will be times when you adore your spouse, times when you can't stand the sight of them. Feelings towards your spouse and marriage come as a roller coaster of emotions. Having a realistic picture of the marriage and knowing that the marriage will have moments of disconnection will make it easier to deal with the difficult times. People who leave “bad” marriages in search of better marriages are only leaving a bad situation that is inevitable no matter what you do and are often disappointed to find that their new relationship includes them too. While we get married for the good times, the bad times are part of the package, we sign up when we stand at the altar and it is up to the individual to make or break the marriage. Given the opportunity and application of appropriate interpersonal skills, the bad times eventually pass.