Remember that the mind cannot and does not refute or reject your thinking. Remember that the past cannot and does not become the present; but your present moment becomes your past. What you thought doesn't have to be what you think today; but what you think today will be what you thought. You don't need to remember, review, and relive to replace a memory; and that's all we need to do with negative memories: replace them. I know that understanding is important, otherwise we will continue to make the same mistakes; but what we need to remember is what to do, not what not to do. Knowing what went wrong doesn't provide the understanding that will make us right. Only the positive can replace the negative. Only light can replace darkness. Only love can replace hate. Only knowledge can replace ignorance. We will get much further by knowing what we choose to think, rather than understanding what we no longer wish to think about. We don't need to rewrite the past so as not to relive it. We just have to create a new memory