An abusive relationship is defined as the “systematic pattern of behaviors in a relationship used to gain and/or maintain power and control over another” (Huston, 2010). Forms of abuse range from emotional to financial, and each has a lasting effect on the victim. An abusive relationship also has a subtle effect on the victim's mind; they experience many psychological difficulties before and after the abuse. Yet, despite all these catastrophic consequences for both mind and body caused by constant abuse, many victims tend to stay in the relationship. Victims face emotional challenges on a daily basis, are injured both mentally and physically, and face constant pressure from society and peers. These problems are well hidden in our society and barely make the headlines, so an individual is never able to understand why one would choose to stay. Abuse can occur for many reasons, either the abuser is facing difficulties at work or has a psychological problem that causes him to be overly possessive. Yet it is not just the perpetrators of the abuse because the victims also develop problems that prevent them from freeing themselves from the relationship. Abusive relationships have long and deep emotionally scarring effects that take years to heal. It's the very thing that can essentially prevent a victim from breaking free. Stockholm syndrome, defined by the Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network, means “the victim's emotional bond with their abuser” (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network, 2009). This is a mental problem that develops unconsciously and is an involuntary action. It's like a natural instinct that helps the victim survive in a harsh and judgmental environment. Fi...... middle of paper......ner.com/article/let-s-look-at-the-definition-of-an-abusive-relationshipLoveisRespect. (2007). Why do people stay in abusive relationships? Retrieved November 28, 2013, from www.loveisrespect.org: http://www.loveisrespect.org/is-this-abuse/why-do-people-stay-in-abusive-relationshipsPollick, M. (November 23, 2013). What is learned helplessness? (B. Harris, editor) Retrieved November 27, 2013, from www.wisegeek.org: http://www.wisegeek.org/what-is-learned-helplessness.htmRape, Abuse & Incest National Network. (2009). Stockholm syndrome. Retrieved November 26, 2013, from www.rainn.org: http://www.rainn.org/get-information/effects-of-sexual-assault/stockholm-syndromeZandt, CV (2005, May 11). Because we love those who hurt us. Retrieved November 26, 2013, from www.in2uract.wordpress.com: http://in2uract.wordpress.com/2007/10/29/abusive-relationship-dynamics/